NPD Tags Are Filled To The Brim With People Repeating The Mantra Of "narc Abuse" Not Being Real And While

NPD tags are filled to the brim with people repeating the mantra of "narc abuse" not being real and while it's true, it isn't real, we've gotta focus on offering actual help to pwNPD. Destigmatizing NPD is great but let's talk about how to fucking handle it too.

With that being said, here's my contribution on how to prevent/lower the likelihood of a narc crash:

Journal or tell your closest ones about your emotions, even if they feel miniscule. Every negative emotion counts. This might seem obvious but pwNPD are very prone to ignoring our emotions in favor of getting supply. Look, I know you "can handle it" and "only weak people have emotions" but you're a person and you have fucking emotions. It's more embarrassing to handle the post-effects of your crash than to try to prevent it, trust me.

After a crash happens, reflect on what actually caused the feeling of insecurity/distress that led to it. Sometimes it's other people, unfair criticism, or both plus our inherent feeling of needing to match a social standard. Try to figure out what caused it and either distance from the trigger or find a way to limit its access to you. Maybe next time, you will be more prepared for the oncoming emotional flow.

Limit who can criticize you. I guess it's harder for those of us with public pages online but actually limit who the hell has a right to critique you. Not everyone is a good critic. Some people will tell you shit just to upset you. Sometimes people won't be obligated to give you any attention at all. It fucking sucks but limiting the number of people who have the RIGHT to affect you might help. For me, it was a rule: What I think and what my FP think matters, everyone else can disappear.

Find means of reminding yourself how great you are. Do you need to admire yourself in the mirror? Reread that sexy post you made? Look at your art again? Check the notes on your favorite aesthetic post? Do you need to reflect on how many people have admired you over lifetime or, maybe, how many compliments you heard last time you did XYZ? Be fucking vain.

Overall, narc crash isn't something that one can entirely predict or prevent, but it's how we react to it that matters. Warning your loved ones that you require attention/supply, taking care of your damn body so you don't overexert yourself for others, and being mindful of your own emotional reactions might help.

Not everyone is going to have the mental capacity to stop themselves from overreacting/communicating poorly, but as long as you learn from your past mistakes you should be fine. Good luck.

P. S. I hope you're all big boys and know I do not mean this to be some sort of universal advice. It helped me, and maybe it will help you too.

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SLASHERVAL: a neogender umbrella term that can be used as a gender in itself, an identity system, or in connection with other genders. it connects to classic 80s slasher movies and enjoyment of them, fake gore, knives and machetes, and horror dvds

under the cut will include common experiences and terminology

slasherval genders and individuals may or may not have/experience:

- connection and/or enjoyment of the horror genre particularly the slasher genre and slasher movies from the 70s, 80s and 90s

- connection to slasher killers themselves, particularly masked, and the concept of final girls and final boys

- may connect to gore, but mainly fake gore, blood and over the top practical effects

- connection to knives, saws and machetes

- connection to camcorders, videotapes, cameras and grainy footage in the context of horror movies

- connection to horror movie tropes and stereotypes and “bad” horror movies

- connection to phones (particularly rotary phones), people speaking on phones, and their connection to the horror genre

- connection to metalcore and possibly ice nine kills and the ‘cringer’ side of being a horror fan, collecting bad merch and horror dvds

SLASHERVAL TERMINOLOGY

SLAIN/SLAINgender - slasherval-in-nature (gender)

slasherine (shortens to slash) - masculine/feminine equivalent

slasherinity - masculinity/femininity equivalent

translasherine/translash - transitioning to a slasherval identity (as opposed/as well as a masc/fem etc one)

deadmeat - slasherval man/woman equivalent

potential suffixes/prefixes for SLAINgenders: slashic, slashvic, slash, slarval, slaval, slainic

ATTRACTION TERMS

myersic / SLS - slasherval loving slasherval

screamfest or ghostduo - slasherval/myersic relationship (to reflect stu/billy as a slasher duo in scream. screamfest is used more often as a general term/for polyam and ghostduo refers specifically to two people)

victim - slasherval/myersic crush

stabner - slasherval/myersic partner

killmate - slasherval/myersic spouse

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