I Remember Things Were Slowly Getting Better, Two Steps Forward One Step Back But Always Moving Forward.

I remember things were slowly getting better, two steps forward one step back but always moving forward.

I live in a conservative area so I'm speaking from own experience.

We had pride parade that went through our town. We had family friendly events during the day. Yes drag is considered misogynistic but there was something nice about taking my younger siblings to get their faces painted (rainbows and butterflies stuff like that) by drag queens, then we'd go do art at the art gallery and then get food from a local restaurants food truck. They had fundraisers for LGBTQ youth shelters, and talks about how we are all one community. Even some progressive non denomination Christian churches were there in support. We had musical performances. It was so fun.

Sure at night the bars got wild but those were adult only events.

But then I had to stop taking my siblings because the kink people started coming out during the day. Men in latex dog masks and doms walking around with people on leashes. Weird shit.

And when you brought it up you were met with bullshit about how important sex is to the community and we shouldn't "shame" people.

The following year less people went.

Then there was the infighting about identity and why were white cis voices the head of everything. This pride we will focus on pronouns and non binary identity. Trans people of color and then trans people should lead the march because that's "how pride started". No police at the events (which is like I understand police are not the ally but large events by law need to have a police presence).

No more rainbow washing, corporations just want our spaces to advertise. ( Who is going to pay for all this? And while it is valid ,we do live in a capitalist society so we need companies to be outloud that " yes your money is good here, yes you can get loans here." As opposed to before where there was legal discrimination against LGBTQ people at these institutions).

I had already removed myself from those communities by the time I heard that pride was being cancelled by it's own community.

It never came back how it used to. No parade. Maybe some events in the town square and bars would have pride events. Even after the pandemic, nothing really has come back.

I wonder what all the protesters did because their job was done for them.

And I guess that's why I'll always be bitter and angry about this because it's all regressive.

And before I start rambling I really do think the way things are going will back fire.

We went from "we are just like you we are apart of your wider community" to all this weird stuff and othering of people in their own community.

I hate it so much when there’s news of men committing horrific crimes against women and children, the comments always say “people are horrible” “humanity is doomed” and “people should be better” when it’s not people who are doing this, it’s MEN specifically who are committing these atrocities and harming us. Why is it that they don’t want to come to terms with the fact this is men’s doing, it’s men who are a danger, not just people. Crimes against women and children are committed by MEN. Secondly, stop calling grown men boys because you can’t bring yourself to hold MEN accountable, but calling them boys shows you only want this cycle of justification for men’s vile behaviour and lack of accountability to continue on.

Because he was life sucking burden on her....this is reality of 89% marriages....heterosexual marriages are dead end for women ...thank goodness for divorce ..women can have second chance at life after being conned by men n society