Adding On To My Previous Posts About Setting Boundaries, Theres Something Else That Our Ex-abuser Did:

Adding on to my previous posts about setting boundaries, there’s something else that our ex-abuser did:

They set boundaries that we couldn’t cross (which some persecutors crossed due to lashing back towards the emotional abuse) and we were well aware of that and did our best to abide by those boundaries. Were some boundaries found out by simple accident? Yes. Because this person also never communicated with us. Whenever we accidentally crossed a boundary they never fucking mentioned, they’d threaten us with termination of the friendship (our only friendship that we admit to being dependent on due to our severe lack of proper social skills).

But then we set some boundaries. Such as: no religious talk, nothing about questioning reality, nothing related to x y or z because it’s a trigger for some of us.

And what did this person do? Promptly made us feel guilty for setting boundaries. Literally, after setting those boundaries, they went “Yeah. Listen, we can’t do the fun stuff anymore because of your boundaries. Yeah. Sorry.” This was bad enough i the point where Blue then immediately revoked those boundaries, despite how uncomfortable they were with the things we set boundaries on.

So seriously. Someone could claim to respect your boundaries, but if they’re making you feel guilty in any way for setting them (even if they’re not being forthright about it) cut them out of your life immediately. They’re emotionally abusing you.

And cut out the people who support your abusers too because they’ll either figure it out for themselves or stay out of your life forever. Focus on you. You’re the most important thing in your life. Don’t ever be ashamed of that.

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[Text: This alter doesn’t know if they’re brainmade or a fictive.]

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here, have another meme for the queue

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Real Shit Said in Headspace (Jax🎳 posted edition!)

Caine🎪: We do the best thing! Get revenge in the best possible way!

Blue🍓: Live a happy and successful life?

Caine🎪: Murder

If I wrote a Cry of Fear fic but as if I’m (I’m a Simon Introject btw) writing it now with my current mental health and stuff would anyone read it?? Just curious

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wait guys

I’ve seen some posts saying how easy it is for them to gain new headmates

HUH???

We can’t hardly get any

we’ve got 5

w h a t

(7 now but still)